Glasgow mum met love of her life in Turkey but pals say he’s ‘with her for visa’
A Glasgow mum met the love of her life on a girls’ holiday but was confronted with cruel claims from friends that he was only with her for a visa.
Amy Urgurla fell head-over-heels with handsome Mahsum after adding him on Facebook following a brief meeting at a bar in Turkey.
The 34-year-old had been on a break with friends recovering from a failed relationship when the pair got chatting at the beach resort of Kusadas.
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They exchanged numbers, and when carer Amy returned home, a long distance romance blossomed before she visited Mahsum twice.
When lockdown hit in 2020 the couple were kept apart for eight months, but their relationship continued to develop online and by phone.
But their relationship had its critics among some of Amy’s friends, who told her she was naive and as Mahsum was only with her for a visa.
However, the couple have gone from strength to strength and they ‘skipped the engagement part’ of their relationship and tied the knot in September – and now they’re trying for a baby.
Amy said: “I didn’t expect to meet the love of my life on holiday. I split up with my little boy’s dad so a friend and I decided to go away for a little break together.
“It was to get over a bit of heartbreak and away from life in general in Scotland.
“I saw Mahsum in passing in one of the bars and said to my friend ‘oh, he’s quite nice’. I spoke to him and asked where in Turkey he was from and so on, but nothing came of it.”
Amy thought that was the end of her encounter with Mahsum, but later she found his profile and thought, “what have I got to lose?” So she added him after a few drinks.
Not long after returning from her 10-day trip in July 2020, Amy saw an offer for a cheap deal to Turkey and booked it.
She then began chatting to Mahsum online every day and when she returned to the country in September they spent a blissful week together and became an item.
Amy said: “I just felt so relaxed talking to him, he just seemed so genuine. I fell in love with him because he’s funny and just so caring, all my family love him as well.
“He wanted me to speak to his parents on the phone. He’s Kurdish and they’re quite strict over there with their culture and religion, so he was a bit worried that they wouldn’t accept me because I wasn’t Muslim and already had a child, but they did.
“He speaks English, at first it wasn’t the best.
“It would take me a lot of time to get him to understand some of the things that I was saying, I could tell right away if he could understand me or not just by the look on his face.”
Amy returned to Turkey at the end of October 2020 where she met some of his family but then lockdown hit.
The couple were forced to spend eight months apart and as Turkey was on the red list they flew to Ukraine instead to meet for five days in July 2021.
Luckily, six weeks later Amy was able to travel to Turkey and she returned with her son, Anton Kerr, six, in August 2021 for a fortnight’s break.
The couple tied the knot on September 4, 2022, in Kusadasi and their big day celebrated both of their distinctive cultures.
The Scottish guests donned kilts, everyone ate Turkish food and they danced to national Turkish dance the Halay and Scottish dance the Loch Lomond.
Mahsum is still getting acquainted with the Scottish accent while Amy is watching Netflix programmes in Turkish to try and learn the language.
Amy said: “I’d tell others who may be entering a similar situation that you need to have a lot of patience because it can be very hard.
“I’ve lost friendships over it just by people being so judgemental and thinking ‘oh, he’s a typical Turk’ but here we are three years later.
“A friend told me about the judgmental people and that you need to grow a thick skin fast if you want your relationship to work, and not let other people get in your head.
“She’s been married to a Turk for 15 years and still gets silly comments from people that aren’t educated on how you get a visa.
“People think they just come here and that’s it, they’ve ‘got their golden ticket’, as someone wrote to me on TikTok.
“At first it used to get to me when people would make silly comments like that and now it goes in one ear and out the other, I’ve grown that thick skin.
“I think ‘please go and educate yourself on how hard it is to get a visa’ as they think that once they’re in the country that’s it.
“But after two-and-a-half years he has to apply for an extension of his visa, then after another two-and-a-half years for indefinite leave to remain.
“If anyone told me that I was going to go back to Turkey, meet someone and marry them within a year, I would have told them, ‘not a chance’, but with him, it was just so different.”
Mahsum said: “When Amy came to speak to me for the first time at the bar I felt nervous because she was drinking at the bar for a week and I was a little shy to speak to her.
“We exchanged a few words but never exchanged numbers and I was upset about that.
“Amy went home and I thought that was it, I wouldn’t see her, but about one week or more later she sent me a friend request on Facebook and my heart skipped a beat, I called her right away.
“Meeting for the first time and spending quality time instead of over a video call was amazing.
“I was excited to get to know each other – we relaxed by the pool, enjoying drinks together and were eating out. I didn’t want it to end.
“What drew her to me was her beautiful smile, blue eyes and lovely pale skin.
“I knew she was the one because the feelings I have for her are different from what I ever felt with anyone else.
“When I was talking to her I was very happy, something just clicked and I knew.
“Celebrating our wedding was like a dream – Kurdish and Scottish people came together as one big family. The men in their kilts were very different for my family to see.
“I was so happy, both our families travelled long distances to celebrate our special day.
“My family travelled 24 hours on a bus from Cizre to Kusadasi and my in-laws flew from Scotland and England to Turkey
“It was overwhelming how many people travelled so far and we appreciated it so much.”
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